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Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness and Transform Your Life

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A book by Lauren Mackler

“Solemate – what a fabulous term for one who has mastered the fine art of being with oneself. This is the promise of Solemate – a book and program that can help anyone feel happier and more complete.” Christiane Northrup, MD, … see full wiki

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Author: Lauren Mackler

Publisher: Hay House

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Happy Living Alone? You Can Be

Apr 2, 2009

by KellyF
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Solemate: Master the Art of Aloneness & Transform Your Life (Hay House/ Apr 2009) by Lauren Mackler

America has changed. 95.7 million Americans are single (43%)--many because of divorce, widowhood, or never married. More women today are living without a spouse rather than with one. (Approximately 50% of marriages end in divorce; women outlive men an average of seven years.)
In the past, it was typically considered not the norm for an adult to live alone, and be happy. Today, that attitude is changing.

Lauren Mackler knows firsthand what it's like to overcome this stereotype and become the person she was meant to be. Following a drawn out divorce in her early thirties in Europe, she flew home to the United States to restart her life as a penniless single mother. Mackler sunk into a depression and asked her own parents for help at the point of a mental breakdown. "That moment," she writes "would prove to be a major turning point in my life."

Lauren Mackler is an authority on personal transformation, relationships, and professional performance as well as a co-author of Speaking of Success with Jack Canfield, Stephen Covey and Ken Blanchard.
Her new book, Solemate is divided into two sections--Part I: Uncovering Your Authentic Self and Part II: Liberating Your Authentic Self. The first sentence, "This book is about you."

These life experiences and her successful recovery have made her stronger, enabling her to give compassion and understanding to the reader through her book, Solemate.

Solemate is about how to become the person you were "meant to be." Mackler asks the reader to keep a journal, read the book, and perform the exercises at the end of each chapter, which will enable the reader to:

*Embrace his/her aloneness--find something good about the situation
*Uncover the conditioned self--learn why and how you behave the way you do
*Manage fear--a whole chapter on this subject
*Live deliberately--choose wisely, everything we do has consequences
*Reclaim innate wholeness--identify your true passions and life's purpose; move toward wholeness
*Become the partner you seek
*Create a life vision--visualize the ideal life
*Build inner and outer support systems--addresses professional support, relationships,
*Bring that vision to life--several exercises in this different type of chapter
*Sustain a commitment--avoid feeling overwhelmed, discouraged, and back sliding

Solemate helps one uncover and retrieve his or her authentic self--"the person you really are beneath the layers of your life conditioning--and living in a conscious and deliberate way so you can achieve the results that you want from life and feel complete and happy on your own."

Mackler originally developed the ideas behind Solemate in a Mastering the Art of Aloneness workshop (1998).

Feeling happy on one's own does not happen overnight, but is a process, Mackler insists. The keys to the art are focus, strategy, and commitment. Using her own example, Mackler focused on her own emotional problems, addressed the beginnings of her "lifelong restlessness," and began the road to recovery through a return to education and a commitment to her children and studies. The author also includes examples from her clients' lives.

A well planned and useful resource, Solemate includes a Resource Guide, Glossary, and an Appendix of Sample Action Plans. Solemate is a book for the majority of us, who at some time in our lives, willingly or not, will live alone. Take action and learn to be happy by discovering now who you really are inside.

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