December 10, 2010
I shall attempt to answer my own questions. Simply put, no and no. Items that have sentimental values attached to them can never be replaced once they are gone. The value is intrinsic to that specific item. Even though this seems like a negative and pessimistic approach to answering these questions, I believe this wholeheartedly, which is why I'm usually so careful with priceless items. Despite this, new sentimental memories can be created when a lost item is replaced. I'm not sure if the sentimental memory will be equally great or compelling, but the acceptance of new memories is an important step toward healing a wound caused by loss. I'm extremely lucky that the diamond can and will be replaced even if we cannot get it covered through our jeweler. There are many people who don't have that same luxury, like when a priceless family memento is lost in a fire.
December 20, 2010
Hmm. Now there's a pickle.
1. Yes, it can, but you have to want it to be replaced, especially when you're dealing with tangible objects. If you were speaking about a person or a pet or something with a soul, then no, it couldn't. But objects are only given the attention we attach to them. I certainly understand the utter hopelessness that you may feel with losing the original, but let's face facts here, kiddo: the real catch is the sentiment that came WITH the diamond. That's what's truly priceless.
2. No. You'll have to work at finding some new sentiments for the new item, which shouldn't be hard as it will no doubt come with even stronger, more permanent, and more lasting emotion than the first one. Again, it only means what you want it to mean.
Now, in fairness, I'm a man, and I know how hard my wife cried and cried and cried when she accidentally dropped and shattered this mixing bowl (it was one of the last user-friendly type things she had been given by her late grandmother). We found her a replacement bowl, and, while it will never have the meaning that the original had, her new one has many of its own fond attachments.
December 10, 2010
I hate to say it, love but, I say no and no as well. For my engagement ring, I'm lucky to have a 3-carat ring that's been in my family since 1902. That and the pre-Civil War pearl and diamond necklace that I'll wear on my wedding day are the only family heirlooms that I have that have been passed down through multiple generations. When my dad first gave them to me, he had them appraised and said, just in case you ever want to sell it. I balked at the idea and said NEVER....I WILL NEVER DO THAT. I'll be sleeping on the streets hiding this damn thing in my bra but, I will NEVER sell it.
If I ever lost it....I'd be heartbroken, so I can only imagine how you feel. I'm sorry hon! The silver lining? At least you still have the memories that made the ring so special- no one can lose or steal your engagement story or wedding day memories from you! I hope you find it! All my limbs crossed for you!
December 11, 2010
Aw, so sorry that you lost your wedding ring, Adrianna! I used to work in a jewelry store and would have teary-eyed ladies come in once in a while to get replacement wedding and engagement rings. @EcoMama
also once unfortunately lost her wedding ring, too, and you can read a review about where she got her replacement here
To answer your questions, I will say no, and no. But don't despair -- I say don't dwell on it, and just move on and make happy new memories with your new ring. Nothing has to replace anything unless you want it to because replacement is just a concept and you don't have to think of it that way if you don't want to. Another way to look at it is like a linear path and this is just a new addition/chapter down the road :)
December 20, 2010
As you already know, I lost my engagement ring. Every time I think of skiing now, I remember that day. It was a learning experience and I was so glad I married the man that I did. He wasn't mad or angry, he reminded me how trivial the material things are. Sure it carried symbolic sentiment, but it isn't nearly as important as our relationship. So unfortunately, no and no are my answers as well!
December 30, 2010
It depends. You can never replace photos. Thank goodness for digital where you can easily have backups. You mention that you lost the diamond. Does this mean you still have the ring? I would think for sentimental purposes, losing the ring would be worse. As a diamond is just a stone that can easily be replaced (unless it is a yellow diamond or some other exotic one) whereas the ring may have been unique.