The Best Advice Isn't Always Practical. "Living in the Moment."
Throughout my life I have been advised to "smell the roses" "enjoy the moment," "live in the now," and so on. I am certain I have paid forward the same advice.
It really is good advice. It's optimistic advice. It is so very zen. But, in reality, often times this advice is nearly impossible to conceptualize or follow.
"Live in the moment," they say, but how can you do that when moments don't stand still? There are fleeting moments of pure bliss when your body and soul erupt in happiness, satisfaction, joy.
But the endorphins, the adrenaline, the hormones, and the life situation itself - none of these things stand still, they move through you and they move on to the next moment in time. Moments in time simply can not be suspended.
As I get older I am more aware of my surroundings, my emotions, my world. From the feeling of sun on my skin, to the smell of baking bread to the touch of a loved one, or the kind words from a friend. I absorb these things more now because, as you age, these small things have greater meaning and importance.
Mortality is something that you can start to feel within a reachable distance and you realize the importance of these little things. In fact, a simple word, a touch, a ray of sun, can begin to mean more than any gesture of grandeur ever did or ever could.
In moments of erupting happiness or even sadness I do look around and try to take snapshots of my surroundings to deepen the the memory of the moment about to pass. The sound of the birds, the smell in the air, the people around me, what I am wearing, anything that can memorialize the moment.
I'm not sure that these conscious acts can really deepen a memory but I try anyway.
At the end of any given day I also try to give thanks for every little blessing in my life. The basic things - like the fact that I made it through the day, that I have my health, my husband, my pets. Nothing material, just the things that I can not live without. I pray for the health and healing of the ones I love.
It's a little unrealistic to actually hold on to one moment in time but that one moment in time can burn memories into your soul and help shape the direction you take in life, who you become.
I am thankful for everything in my life, including anything unfortunate that has ever happened. I wouldn't change a thing because all of it shaped exactly who I am as I sit here and type this.
Maybe instead of living in the moment, we can start acknowledging and noticing these moments and how they feel, taste, sound. How these moments leave us in the aftermath and help us evolve into who we are supposed to become.
* How do you keep perspective on your life?
**And do you "live in the moment?"
Have a safe and happy weekend enjoying all that life brings you.
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