The Language of Emotions WHAT YOUR FEELINGS ARE TRYING TO TELL YOU by Karla McLaren Published in Canada
Reviewed by : Dr. Joseph S. Maresca
Every so often, I come upon a rare book that enunciates feelings and emotions succinctly and without a lot of technical jargon. The Language of Emotions is such a book. The author advises us to set strong boundaries, read emotions and empathize with others.
Transforming emotions is one of the most difficult tasks to accomplish. The book provides sets of simple exercises to achieve the physical relief from great tension occasioned by any of life's expected or unexpected crises. For instance, one of the exercises advises us to breath in , hold our breath and exhale while moving the limbs in a free form. Specific examples are provided for channeling emotions on the road by translating great anger into the skillful avoidance requisite to maneuvering out of difficult situations.
Some time is spent on interpreting the whole psyche by letting the intellect guide us while achieving greater emotional understanding. At times, the dilemma between two logical choices can be elusive until we bring in our emotions to derive a "gut feel"or intuition.
The author provides specific remedies to bring the whole being or parts thereof into balance. Fuzzy logic can be dealt with by studying or reading. If there is overflow in the water element, the fix is to move into expressive activities. Rage in the fire element can be tempered by contemplation, dreaming or imagining. We should be conscious of avoidance behaviors in order to bring clarity to our being.
At times, we can reintegrate the village internal to our being by overcoming traumas of every kind. Trauma is the initiation into the deeper current(s) of life. Overcoming trauma strengthens our coping mechanisms for future use. Perhaps, there are no better examples of trauma than the current Gulf Oil Spill, Katrina or the Haitian earthquake. Coping strategies are needed now to deal with the wrath of nature to facilitate communal survival .
A followup to this is to free yourself from unworkable relationships. This act will preserve the energies expended in avoidance strategies. A corallary is to channel anger into the personal boundary instead of ignoring it or trying to cope with an uncontrolled monstrosity.
Happiness and joy in life should be celebrated and interwoven into our existence to further enhance emotional well being and the ability to cope. Both of these emotions are free-flowing states which should be encouraged. The author provides a very detailed analysis of a whole host of emotional states. i.e.
o apathy and boredom o anger o guilt, shame, hatred o fear and confusion o jealousy and envy o sadness, grief and depression o happiness, contentment , joy or triumph
Overall, the book would be an excellent acquisition for your personal library of self-help books. The price is very reasonable in comparison to the considerable value of the information contained.
This book is a very comprehensive psychospiritual self-help guide. The author draws on her own life experiences and understanding of psychology and metaphysics to foster awareness in the reader. This book promotes an approach to healing and personal growth that integrates all aspects of oneself - archetypes, elements, polarities, etc., encouraging development and integration of body, mind, emotions, and spirit. Bringing all the apsects of self into a level of maturity and mastery where they can … more
Most of us relate to our emotions by either running from the difficult ones or clinging to the pleasant ones. Karla McLaren suggests a radical new perspective: that all of our emotions are equally important messengers, ready to assist us in acting with full awareness and integrity. With The Language of Emotions, this empathic counselor and researcher gives us a breakthrough guide toward a new and empowering relationship with our feeling states. As a practical lexicon for working with a full spectrum of emotions, The Language of Emotions explores:
The latest insights about emotion from psychology and neurology and how to apply them in real life
Discovering your "internal compass" to utilize your emotions responsibly--instead of over-reacting to or repressing them
Emotions as the gateway to personal healing and fulfillment
When we learn to speak their language, every emotion becomes a powerhouse of energy and information that reveals the perfect solution to the situation in which it arose. For anyone seeking a wiser approach to their emotions, here is a much needed resource for self-understanding and inner freedom. Revised and updated edition previously released as Emotional Genius: Discovering the Deepest Language of the Soul (LaughingTree, 2001).