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Message in a Bottle (or in this case, a book)

  • Nov 9, 2008
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Pros: More intriguing looks into the secrets people carry.

Cons: Much, much too short.

The Bottom Line: What has Frank Warren learned? A lot of us pee in the shower, men have secrets, but women keep the best secrets.

In 2004, as Frank Warren tells it, the PostSecret project found him (and not the other way around). He handed out postcards, inviting people to write a true secret and send it back to him anonymously. He handed out 3,000 postcards. He’s received well over 50,000 and from all over the world. His four books, PostSecret, My Secret, and A Lifetime of Secrets, and this one, The Secret Lives of Men and Women.

Each book aside from the original PostSecret has a central theme to it. I’m sure you can guess the theme of this book. Frank Warren has organized the secrets to zero in on the things that men and women have to say about life, love, and all the minute details that surround these things--like missing a pet cat. However, I’m quite astonished that this is only a mere 128 pages long, a breeze to get through. Surely there were more secrets out there that could have gone into this book? Warren’s received over 50,000 postcards from around the world! I’m sure more could have been put in here.

Still, as usual the secrets are fascinating, and adding to their intrigue are the ways in which people send them. Pieces of objects taped to postcards, photographs, handwritten messages, cut and pasted letters, internet screen shots, words written on envelopes, in paint, in chalk, on ultrasounds and more. Each secret is a work of art in itself and what’s more, for many people the act of sending off this secret in the mail is a way of healing and letting go. Not all the secrets are deep or heartrending. Some are shallow and funny as hell. Everyone has one or two little secrets at least, even if they aren’t that earth-shaking.

Here’s a sampling of what you’ll get in the book, though, as with all PostSecret books, you really should see the postcards themselves in order to get the full effect:

Wish I would stop buying you cards I will never, ever, ever SEND.


I have a sick need for abandonment.


My boobs are different sizes. I’ll bet $20 yours are too.


I’ve always wanted to be a farmer.

This is my last PostSecret book, and I’m sad that there aren’t any more. I think Frank Warren should put out a whole PostSecret series, they’re just so fascinating. Some secrets you may find yourself relating to, others may remind you of other people, and some...well, who knows? There might be a secret in here that helps to change your life.

Until then, I’ll be off to Postsecret.com to get my daily dose of secrets and maybe I’ll reveal a few more of my own (though in truth, I don’t have all that many).



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review by . January 18, 2010
This was good, but not as good as the first - or perhaps the novelty is wearing off. Or perhaps because I check it each week, I feel like I've seen them all? Having said that, the book itself is great quality with some very interesting "secrets" in them. A few of them are extraordinarily sad and it makes me hope that the person that sent it was able to let go of it once it was mailed.
review by . May 24, 2008
OK... I'm on a PostSecret book kick now. This time I grabbed The Secret Lives of Men and Women: A PostSecret Book by Frank Warren from the library. And like the first one I read, I was completely drawn in by the human drama played out in the pages.    If you don't know, PostSecret is the project started by Frank Warren where people decorate postcards and letters, reveal a secret they have that they haven't told to anyone, and then send it anonymously to PostSecret. Warren has …
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Postsecret.com founder Frank Warren is back with an irresistible addition to his bestselling PostSecret series. ForThe Secret Lives of Men and Women,Warren has selected a never-before-seen collection of postcards bearing the explosive confessions and captivating revelations of men and women everywhere. Created using photographs, collages, illustrations, and more, the handmade cards offer a compelling dialogue on some of today's most provocative topics--from marriage and infidelity, to parenting, office politics, repressed fantasies, and even abortion--daring us to consider how well we really know our friends, family, even ourselves.
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ISBN-10: 0061198757
ISBN-13: 978-0061198755
Author: Frank Warren
Genre: Arts & Photography, Entertainment
Publisher: William Morrow
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