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A form of abuse that comprises repeated acts over time that involves a real or perceived imbalance of power.

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A Quick Tip by katknit

  • Oct 11, 2010
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Bullying is a huge problem in most schools. Adults tend to dismiss it, saying all kids get teased, but bullying goes way beyond teasing, and when it's chronic, it's lethal.
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October 11, 2010
As a former teacher and as a parent I have witnessed bullying. My rule, in both roles, was zero tolerance, meaning no physical dominance and no name calling. In the school setting no physical dominance meant no physical contact, as much as a teacher can control that. However I saw teachers and guidance counselors accept both pushing and name calling as fooling around. I have heard teachers talk about eighth graders pushing each other in the hall as normal, everyday behavior and as a sign that the "new kid" was fitting in. I reacted strongly to this from my own personal conviction of zero tolerance and stated that it should not be allowed.
In relation to name calling a friend told me about her child's experience with name calling at middle school. My friend engaged in conversation with both the guidance counselors and the teachers who felt that the middle school student didn't seem to mind as the student laughed in reply. In conversations with my friend I became aware of how upsetting it was to the child, not because there were tears, but because there were long discussions with questions about the meaning of the insulting terms used and confusion as to why. After contact with the school got no results, my friend called the parents of the tormentors,and asked them to talk to their child about his group's behavior, which they did, stating that although their child had not done it he had witnessed his friends doing it. This parent called the other parents to alert them to the actions of the group. After that I think that things seemed to improve, as my friend no longer consulted with me.
I watched Anderson Cooper's special on bullying the other night. All the students and professionals referred to similar stories and worse. We as community members must expect respectful behavior from our own families, and we must expect it to be taught and expected in our schools, both by students and by teachers. 
October 13, 2010
You should copy and paste these wise words in a Quick Tip so everyone else can read it rather than just a reply to 'katknit.' Good work.
 
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Note: I first wrote this on the heels of Jamey Rodemeyer's suicide in September.    Here's the big problem with bullying: Most of the folks upstairs are eager to keep pretending it's the 1950′s. The standard advice on how to deal with being bullied runs mainly along the lines of going with it and allowing your tormentors to subject you to whatever abuse they have in store today. I told my babysitter on numerous occasions about the shit I had to take. Typical of the reactions: …
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Bullying is a form of abuse. It comprises repeated acts over time that involves a real or perceived imbalance of power with the more powerful individual or group abusing those who are less powerful. The power imbalance may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a target.

Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as psychological manipulation. Bullying can be defined in many different ways. Although the UK currently has no legal definition of bullying, some US states have laws against it.

Bullying in school and the workplace is also referred to as peer abuse. Robert W. Fuller has analyzed bullying in the context of rankism.

Bullying can occur in any context in which human beings interact with each other. This includes school, church, the workplace, home and neighborhoods. It is even a common push factor in migration. Bullying can exist between social groups, social classes and even between countries (see Jingoism).
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