Ah... Mother's Day. Moms get pampered, appreciated, and receive a multitude of gifts and flowers. What woman doesn't love flowers? It is nice to be a mom on Mother's Day. But the question is: "What about the other 364 days a year?!" This being my first year as a mother I can finally make my point and share a perspective that is rarely touched upon in regards to this holiday.
Every single one of us has a mother, we all have a different connection with that person who brought us into this world. Mother's Day, while a great idea, does not solve the issue of often distant or uninvolved relationships between the mother and her children or her spouse. Sure it is nice to be honored once a year, but what moms really crave is gratefulness that is evident every day! What consolation is it to a mother if her deviant and disrespectful child (no matter what age) shows up at her door with a bouquet one day out of the year, or even worse - sends her one via 1-800 Flowers?
Yes... to be a mother. Such joy, such pain. First you go through the ordeal of pushing that little bundle of joy out into the light (with no epidural for me!). Then you are guaranteed at least a month of no sleep and then many months of very little sleep. You get so excited when you get four consecutive hours, it is enough for a celebration with cupcakes! You might be all grown up now, but it was your mother who changed your diapers, fed you, caressed you when you were distressed and completely helpless. It is a mother's unconditional love that strengthens the bond of a family. So much is expected of a mother, yet so little she receives in return. All she asks for is a little of your time and your unconditional love in return, no matter how she might have messed up in raising you or how imperfect she is.
I am lucky to have a mother that I would wish for everyone to have. No, she isn't perfect. But it is her unconditional love that made me the person I am. Now that I am a mother, I have a glimpse into just how much she loves me. Only now can I fully appreciate all those homemade meals, clean laundry, and her precious time. So for those of you still living with your parents, enjoy it! Don't be in a hurry to get out, it is a mean tough world out there. Plus if your mother is still alive, take the time to thank her while she is still here.
So, while honoring your mom on mothers day is wonderful, think about that odd week day in September when you can drop by with a box of cookies for a cup of tea. Or invite her over on a random frosty January day for dinner out and a hearty meal that she doesn't have to spend time preparing. If you don't live close, your phone call once a week or two is something she will look forward to. That bouquet, send it to her in February, not May. Make her feel special throughout the year, not just one day.
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The Mother's Day holiday was created by Anna Jarvis, who began campaigning for a memorial day for women after the death of her mother. She succeeded in making it a nationally recognized holiday on May 8th, 1914, when the U.S. Congress passed a law designating the second Sunday in May as Mo s ther' Day. On May 9, 1914, President Woodrow Wilson proclaimed the first national Mother's Day as a day for American citizens to show the flag in honor of those mothers who had lost their sons in war.
The carnation flower has come to represent Mother's Day since they were delivered by Anna at one of its first celebrations. The carnation was her mother's favorite flower and came to be a symbol of the purity of a mother's love. The holiday is celebrated around the world on various days throughout the year. To this day, Mother's Day continues to be one of the most commercially-successful U.S. holidays, also serving as the most popular day of the year to dine out!