I wanted to read NurtureShock before I became a parent myself, and in the process I discovered many things about the way that I was raised.
As the authors note, constant praise for one's ability, rather than for one's hard work, ingrains the notion that we are innately good at some things and innately bad at others. The lesson in the end? Working hard will get you nowhere because you will always do poorly at the things you do poorly at. As children grow, they avoid things that they do no excel at, and which will not reaffirm their natural abilities. This is the very tendency I've noticed in myself.
On top of the lessons learned from this book, which are all quite eye-opening, the actually structure of the writing is pleasant. Often the authors start with the perspective of a family and whatever problems they are having, and then they delve into the research on that topic, and finally, at the end of the chapter, they show how they've applied that research to their own children.
Some people hate this book and avoid it because it flies in the face of what they believe. But if you want to be a good parent, or even a good teacher, I recommend this book and the research that backs it. Be informed.
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