As the other reviewer of this subject of puntuality, I have also been taught to be on time. With that teaching, I have also expected others to respect my time by being on time. Over the years, I have eliminated habitual violators of punctuality from my life, some close friends. No matter how close friends they were, after hearing so many lame excuses, I have concluded they are simply taking our friendship for granted, hence not worthy of my friendship.
Recently, I have encountered another violator. Luckly this time, it was someone I have no previous ties with.
WARNING: This is a rant.
I have been considering adopting a dog. Per @LisaLisa's recommendation, I thought I would try fostering first. I was recently at PetSmart in El Segundo and met a rescue group called Sparky and the Gangs. I shared my interest in fostering a dog and the volunteers were ecstatic and said Sherry (the head of the group) would be very happy to hear that. I filled out an application and Sherry chatted with me briefly and decided I would foster a puppy that is scared to interact with human. She said she would swing by 6:30 p.m. with the puppy and his stuff. I was quite excited with the anticipation of giving love to scared little puppy.
When 6:40 p.m. hit, I started to worry if Sherry was having trouble finding our house. I went outside to flag her down in case she misses our house. I waited 15 minutes outside, pacing up and down the street. No signs of Sherry and no phone call. It was dinner time, but I couldn't prepare or eat since I didn't want to be in the middle of dinner when she comes by with the puppy. She gave me a card, but only answering machine picked up at the listed number. I left a message and sent an email asking what was going on.
After one hour has passed, I found another number on petfinder.com. Luckily, answering this number was Sherry. She said new puppies were born, so she wouldn't be able to make it. I was kind of annoyed that she didn't called me to let me know she is not going to make it, but I thought I would let it slide. She asked if she could come by the next morning. 10 a.m. the next morning was the appointment.
That night I slept 3-4 hours with the excitement of receiving the puppy. It's cute but scared face kept popping up in my head and would not let me sleep.
Next morning, Sherry didn't show up at 10 a.m. Almost 20 minutes later, she called saying that she will not make it AGAIN. There was an emergency (one of the puppies weren't doing well), and she was at the vet in Pasadena. Again, why did she not call earlier? If it takes 45 minutes from Pasadena to my place, she should know at any time after 9:15 a.m. that she is running late. She should have called me to let me know at least that she is running late. She asked for another appointment. Reluctantly, I said 9 a.m. the next morning. I thought I would give her another chance for the puppy's sake.
Next morning, again Sherry did not show or call at the appointed time. Even before that I was skeptical she would show up on time. After 10 minutes passed, I called her. I asked her where she was and she said she is in Long Beach (that's where she is based)! She gave excuse that she needed to feed the puppies. When I asked her how long it would take, she said there is traffic, so it would be a bit while. By that point, I was done! I feel bad for the puppy that needed loving care, but with someone that unreliable and not respective other people's time, I thought it would be best not to get involved.
She called her situation emergency. As far as I can tell from petfinder.com, she often gets pregnant dogs. So I don't think this current situation should throw her completely out that she can't even make a simple phone call.
I understand there are emergencies and unforeseen circumstances in life that prevents people from keeping appointments. I understand there are traffic jams and other things that prevent people from showing up on time. But at the least, if you can't make it on time, or not make it at all, you should inform the other person as soon as possible. When there are great communication tools called "cell phones", there is no excuse for not doing so.
Ye, there is a happy ending to this! I ended up going to a county dog shelter and adopted smart, beautiful 6 months old border collie puppy. She is completely knocked out right now after a fun walk on the beach and playing tug-of-war with me and her new toy.
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