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"Happy Love Day Everyone!"

  • Jan 29, 2010
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So Valentine's Day is coming up and while I've always been indifferent about the day, I am usually annoyed by some of the people on the day.  Now I know what you're thinking, "The people who are all sucking face and making cute noises to one another and the married couples who put on their Calender that this is one of the days of the year they're actually allowed to have sex with one another... yeah they annoy the hell out of me too!"  Actually, no.  I rather adore those people because they're not sitting around and bitching about how they have no one and how Valentine's Day is just a day made up to sell cards.  And it's true, a lot of people use Valentine's Day as a a day to sell cards.  But for those who actually have someone special (or who want to admit their feelings to someone special) it becomes a very special day and for some of them it's a lot ore than just a Halmark Holiday or a day to give your significant other an excuse to have sex (hey don't get mad, those people, sadly, do exist).

Your fellow Luncher Sean Rhodes doesn't have much of a love life here, neither is he really seeking one.  I don't want to rant, but those who rally against Valentine's Day because it's a cheesy, sappy holiday or because they're single are actually a little creepy to me (plus, if you're going to go into Valentine's Day with that kind of attitude it's no wonder you're still single).  I'm actually okay with being single or with just looking at others express their love on V-Day.  This is coming from someone who at 23 has only actually ever had two Valentine's Day with someone ever... both in high school and let me tell you that it's nothing to write home about, especially because a lot of high school relationshps are formed to end anyway.  And I'll admit that when I was younger I had my "Love sucks" moment and my disdain towards Valentine's Day as well.  And hey, you're free to have your own disdain toward Valentine's Day and hate it all you want and shit on people who enjoy it.  On the internet they're called trolls.  In real life they're called dicks.

Moving on, I will agree that yeah... do you really need a day to express your love for someone?  Well, in all honesty... no.  But to be honest with you we have A LOT of holidays that are used as excuses to do other things.  We use Saint Patrick's Day as an excuse to get hammered, for example.  We really do.  When Saint Patrick's Day comes around I'm always hearing, "Dude, I'm going to go out and get so fucked up I'll feel like I've downed roofies!"  Keep in mind... I'm in my twenties and am in college with people who insist that everyday is a good drinking day.   And it's not like they couldn't do it on the weekend or even on the Friday after work or classes.  Or even on some other holiday.  Christmas slowly became a material holiday where people are more concerned about what they'll get than anything else.  So in the sense of Valentine's Day being a Holiday that we don't really need just because no one needs an excuse to express their love... you might want to consider what other people use other holidays as an excuse to do as well.  Do you really, for example, need a holiday to express how Thankful you are for what you have?  Do you need a holiday or even a birthday as an excuse to give someone a gift?  Do you really need say... Labor Day as an excuse to take another day off work (or MLK Day, President's Day etc.)?  There were a bunch of kids whining about how we don't get "Patriot Day" off school.  You guys know what day "Patriot Day" is?  It's September 11.  In short, I can't get upset about people using Valentine's Day as an excuse when people are convinced we need to make days like September 11 or April 20 (Columbine) a Holiday just so that we can have an excuse to have another day off.  Sain't Patrick's Day and New Year's are primarily drinking Holidays among large groups of people.  With that in mind... why can't Valentine's Day be a Holiday?  Even with it being used as an excuse to express your love when you can do it any other day?  You can drink any other day.  Give thanks any other day.  Give a gift any other day.  Be thankful for your civil rights any other day.  And what the hell was the point of Labor Day again?

I know there are more significant meanings behind days such as Thanksgiving, Christmas etc.  I'm only saying that while they are not forgotten... deep down inside people are much happier about other things concerning those days rather than their actual meaning.  On Thanksgiving it's that feast and (for many) that nice long weekend.  For Christmas it's receiving gifts.  There are deeper meanings to these Holidays but you don't necessarily need Thanksgiving to have a feast or Christmas to give a gift. But those Holidays did turn into excuses for many to do just that.  I'm willing to bet there are people out there who don't even know what the hell the point of Labor Day is, but they'll take it as an excuse to have a day off. 

So Valentine's Day is a day where you express your love... even though you could express your love to someone on any other day of the year.  But hey, like I said, many Holidays devolved into being excuses as well.  Whether it's for a day off (there's one in every month) or just to give you an excuse to be an idiot or a jerk for a day (April Fool's Day) or what have you. 

I like V-Day.  I do get a lot of nice gifts from friends who insist on constantly reminding me that they care about me, and I'll do the same for many of them.  About the only thing that bothers me about Valentine's Day is really those who get bitter about it.  Most times that wouldn't bother me, but on Valentine's Day I'll get flooded with text messages and have to listen to angry rants all day long about how much Valentine's Day sucks.  For a time it was amusing because I used to be one of those people who thought the same.  Then it became sad.  Then it became stupid.  Then it became annoying.  I'll admit that I enjoy receiving the gifts, the candy and the chocolate.  And I admit I wonder how come people don't give me that stuff more.  But then again, I also wondered why Valentine's Day is the day of scrutiny.  In high school the annoyance was at its higheset.  With people sulking around because they had no one (cry me a river, build a bridge and get over it).  I had one friend in particular who was so over-dramatic about it that he made it a point to be silent and bitter all day.  He was like Scrooge if Scrooge were late to take a piss on Christmas and needed some other day to do it on.  When I got him a box of Chocolates one year he was suddenly... brighter and more cheery and happy.  So was it because he didn't have a special someone or because no one showed him some love?  Like I said, I can only remember having someone on V-day twice in my life and one of those times was a terrible experience anyway.  But I receive a lot of love every year.  

I don't care much for a love life, but nothing gets me more upset than someone else who has to ruin the love two other people express, and nothing gets to me more than the people who talk about how Valentine's Day is just another day... when it clearly isn't to them.  If it were the rage wouldn't be necessary on a day that was essentially "just like any other day."  Admit it, someimes people sucking face and expressing love to an over-the-top degree is a little off putting.  Especially on a day that pretty much encourages people to do it.  I'll be the first to admit that it can be.  I find it cute, but sometimes I think to myself, "Wow that guy hasn't gotten any in a long time if he's making her a feast, gave her a giant diamond ring, a giant teddy bear, a giant box of chocolates AND resurrected Barry White to sing love songs to her.  He's just doing this because afterwards... she'll pretty much have to."  I kid, of course, but seriously, I can sympathize with that kind of thinking.  It's especially hard on some when they're single and seeing people expressing such love when you have no one to express it to.  For others it can be a terrible reminder that at one point they DID have someone like that but no longer do.  This is part of the reason why some people don't call it "Valentine's Day," but rather "Single Awareness Day."  If that's not a big hint that some don't like being single on a day that's all about expressing your love for someone I don't know what is.  So while I don't want to hear the ramblings about it I can actually sympathize... even if I just don't feel that anymore. 

I do enjoy Valentine's Day.  Even though I don't have anyone.  But then again, I don't care much for a love life anyway.  But it is nice to go out on Valentine's Day and know that I am loved by someone out there.  A friend... a family member.  Hell, I'm even glad to receive those stupid cards from businesses on V-Day that basically just love me for giving them money.  I gotta say, I like that acknowledgement.  It gives me  makes me feel good for the day.  Hey, I don't get that on any day other than Valentine's Day... and yeah, I kind of like that.  I have a large network of friends.  And while we show our appreciation and love for one another in other ways, Valentine's Day is that day when we kind of make sure to remind each other that it's about more than friendship.  That's not to say we sit in a circle by the campfire singing songs or that no one ever gets pissed off with one another.  It is to say, however, that Valentine's Day among us isn't just another day.  Valentine's Day doesn't have to be about your love for that ONE special person, be it a spouse or a mother or a father... brother or sister or anything like that.  Sometimes the love of a friend is enough.  Like it was for my friend in high school who's real reason for not liking Valentine's Day was that no one EVER showed him love... even on days that WEREN'T Valentine's Day until I decided I'd get him a box of chocolates.  It suddenly brightened his day.  So you can say Valentine's Day is meaningless all you want, but to someone out there it really does mean something.  If you have someone who rather likes that expression of love on that day you probably know this much better than I do.  I'm not sitting here trying to defend Valentine's Day.  Only trying to provide you with perspective.  I rather enjoy the day because of that acknowledgement.  Just remember, it doesn't have to come from that specific special someone.  It can come from... well, anyone.  I think you'd be surprised how many people will be appreciative of what you give them on Valentine's Day.

I know that Valentine's Day seems meaningless to a lot of people.  But if you're with someone who rather enjoys giving that expression of love on that day... you definitely know that some of them would wring your neck if they found you didn't do anything for them on that day.  So much for being meaningless, right?  Just remember, what's meaningless to one may not be so meaningless to another.  So we don't really need a special day to tell someone we love them... but that doesn't make that day in and of itself useless.  I mean, come on, look at what we turned other Holidays into an excuse to do in spite of their meaning.

I'll spend this upcoming Valentine's Day single, but for the most part what would bother me more is letting it go by without actually expressing to my friends and family that I care about them and love them very much, and neglecting to show them my appreciation.  I know my friends feel the same way.  And yes, they all know already... but you'd be surprised how upset some of them can get when no one stops by to let them know how loved they really are.  I'm not one of those "Love Conquers All," people, but being bitter on Valentine's Day is no reason to make sure someone else has a bad day... and gives you no reason to crap on it either.  You can come up with all the excuses you want and bash on the day all you want, but if you've got that special someone who is looking forward to it, my guess is you're not going to turn your back on that special someone just because you don't like the day.  And my other guess is that you're not going to turn your back on any gift you should receive as well.  If that IS you, then I think you'll find that even you're getting something out of Valentine's Day.

Anyway, I'm excited for the day because to me it holds some special significance.  I hope you all have a Happy Valentine's Day as well.  Don't worry, even if you don't I'll still love you.

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January 29, 2010
Nice write up, Sean. As always you are inredibly analytical and expressive. Yep, V-day can be doing something for your parents (I used to do that as a kid). As with all holidays, it all depends on how you use it. Methinks maybe I should do a write up on V-day...
 
January 29, 2010
I enjoyed your review, Sean. Great points made!
 
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Valentine's Day or Saint Valentine's Day is a holiday celebrated on February 14 by many people throughout the world. In the English-speaking countries, it is the traditional day on which lovers express their love for each other by sending Valentine's cards, presenting flowers, or offering confectionery. The holiday is named after two among the numerous Early Christian martyrs named Valentine. The day became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished.

The day is most closely associated with the mutual exchange of love notes in the form of "valentines". Modern Valentine symbols include the heart-shaped outline, doves, and the figure of the winged Cupid. Since the 19th century, handwritten notes have largely given way to mass-produced greeting cards. The sending of Valentines was a fashion in nineteenth-century Great Britain, and, in 1847, Esther Howland developed a successful business in her Worcester, Massachusetts home with hand-made Valentine cards based on British models. The popularity of Valentine cards in 19th century America, where many Valentine cards are now general greeting cards rather than declarations of love, was a harbinger of the future commercialization of holidays in the United States. It's considered one of the Hallmark holidays.

The U.S. Greeting Card Association estimates that approximately one billion valentines are sent each year worldwide, ...

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